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Dorby Kim's avatar

definitely not easy, so grateful for the internet - where we can flock together like the beautiful cunty birds that we are (secretarybird is finally having its viral moment) loved this piece, please keep writing - your transparency and vulnerability gives me courage to accept myself for the whimsical intelligent being that i am

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Bhumi's avatar

Ig this is the most relatable post I've read on here till now. Thank you so much for writing this. Lots of love>>>>

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NeuroHuntress's avatar

Fellow weird girl here! This was an absolutely beautiful piece.

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Jade-Lauren Meskie's avatar

Beautiful essay!! I follow you on social media and absolutely love your content. Fellow weird girly here, finding herself through creators like you. I have never felt so seen. I love this <3 keep writing, it’s beautiful

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Alex Mizak's avatar

I have really needed an example of someone like me expressing their complex thoughts at length. This was a lovely read, that I want to sign under with both hands as well. Thank you for your thoughts, content, and visibility. Your existence has helped me be more at ease with myself, and I am excited to read more of your long form content. I can feel it’s going to help me on my own writing journey too!

Hope you have a lovely day!

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aru sitharam's avatar

This is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for doing what you do

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laura hoenack's avatar

I saw myself in your words, thank you so much for sharing. Beautifully written! ❤️❤️❤️

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Samuel Zyder's avatar

🌟 Helen, this essay is a masterpiece of vulnerable becoming – every paragraph feels like watching someone bravely plant flowers in cracks of societal concrete. The way you’ve woven “whimsy” into a framework of radical selfhood gives language to something I’ve felt but never articulated: that aesthetics aren’t just decoration, but scaffolding for identity.

Your courage to share an “unfinished” self – neurodivergent growth-in-progress, messy hyperfixations and all – mirrors what so many of us are fumbling toward. It’s that dynamic quality of identity, where we’re losing parts to find them again. As someone whose ADHD brain often reduces coherence to confetti, seeing you articulate this journey so poetically? Healing.

On a personal note (and I hope this lands gently):

There’s a grounded, reassuring energy in your work that my pattern-seeking brain keeps framing as… philosophical dad vibes? Not in a gendered-literal sense, but in that mythic “wise elder nurturing communal roots” way. Having grown up without a father figure, I’m realizing how starved I’ve been for that particular flavor of guidance – the kind that says, “Here’s soil; grow how you need to.” Whether that’s your intent or just my projection, thank you for creating space where weird girls (and guys, and everyone) can practice existing loudly.

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HEW(Hue) of Poetry's avatar

Definitely related to this although I am not a weird girl,but weird hetero man😅😅

Stuck between interests I feel. I like sports but other than baseball, I'm not appointment viewing/day ruined if my favorite team loses guy. I have some nerdy interests(Doctor Who, MCU movies, pro wrestling) but I ultimately feel that I'm more than just a stereotypical geek in that way too. So I don't really fit in with them either. But I still want acceptance!

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Sarah Feller's avatar

I loved all of this!

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Ennkaypea's avatar

This is absolutely beautiful ❤️

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Justin Kolodziej (maybe Ann)'s avatar

If someone at the Bojangles drive-thru window called me ma'am once do I get weird girl status?

Seriously though, sounds like you'll at least change the world in an interesting way, unlike these stupid tech bros!

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Ayana's avatar

girl 💖 love your art

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coolestintheuniverse's avatar

LOVE YOU SO MUCH I FEEL EVERYTHING U SAY DEEPLY❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Fred Wyver's avatar

That was something I needed to read today

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Lis Bloom's avatar

I don't think i've ever read anything that has made me feel as seen and understood as this essay... Thank you so much 🥺🪻

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